7 things I wish my husband did for me when I was pregnant!

Pregnancy is a very challenging journey, both emotionally and physically. When I was pregnant there were so many things that I wish that my husband would do for me. But most of the time I faced disappointment not that my husband didn't want to do it or he cared any less for me or didn't love me....they are just plain men and men will always be men!! You need to ask for what you want..you need to remind them..you need to be assertive..its not that they don't love u but they just don't want to leave their cozy slumber..you going through zillions of hormonal changes and getting overwhelmed is too easy..hence you may not ask for what you want or wish but might just expect your man to do stuff for you, that too without you telling him to..ahh you know what! Husbands are not face readers or psychics! You need to ASK! Yes..even if you are pregnant for the first time!The following post is for the first time pregnant couples or those planning to become parents.

Here are seven things that I wish my husband did for me, when I was pregnant!! But hey, please don't judge him, apart from the following things which he forgot to do for me, he has done zillion many other wonderful things, he is an absolutely dotting husband and probably I will come up with a list later about the things that he did for me during my pregnancy..well, may be!! :D As the saying goes "No matter how good you are, there will always be critics"  and here the 'critics' is 'me' the 'wife' :D (Devilish Grin)..so this is my take on my Dear Husband (DH):D Go ahead and read with a pinch of salt. 

1. Buffets: A delicious spread out of scrumptious meal from salads to deserts is like a walk in the heaven. I wish he would take me to buffets more often when I was pregnant. Yes he did take me to buffets few odd times after I asked him to but that was just not enough. A pregnant lady needs to eat and needs variety of stuff on her plate. I am not sure how majority of pregnant ladies feel about food during pregnancy but I was quite healthy during my pregnancy for most of the time and felt great about food. Food did not make me sick, though I would not crave for any particular food but I would really wish there was a platter laid in front of me so that I can choose what I want to eat. I used to get really bored with the routine meal and I wouldn't feel like cooking myself. I really missed having buffets especially during breakfast as morning time was the time when I was the most hungry. So offer your lady trips to buffet or order a huge American breakfast:) If she is not into eating much then good for you..you can go back to sleep :D

2.Educate Yourself:  I wish my husband educated himself on pregnancy related issues either through a book or online sources or at least download an application on his cell. I did all the reading and would tell him about the articles. I don't want him to bury himself in the pregnancy knowledge pool but just sometimes. This would have made feel more loved and cared for! Learning and sharing both ways as the pregnancy progresses step by step, will make your wife feel that you both are on the same page and understands the challenges that are lying ahead. For Dear Husbands (DH), it will be easy to cope up with the mood swings that his partner goes through. You might be able to further understand  why your wife would prefer sleep over sex or why is she crying over petty things, why is she behaving cranky or why is the morning sickness all day. This way you can also be prepared for the BIG DAY and you will be able to understand what's going around you, like what is epidural, what is breaking of water, does baby's position matters! or what to do when contractions come in. The list is long. Also you will be able to take care of your wife better post pregnancy.

3.Massage: If there is anyone who deserves a massage right now apart from your mum..its your expecting wife! Sometimes during late pregnancy months my feet will ache so much that I would wish someone will give me a massage but there was no one I could ask for and my husband did offer sometimes but I wish he offered me more. I would be shy to ask him. It is not easy to carry your weight and your baby's weight all around without some back pain, joints pain, soar legs and aching muscles. The body is stretched out and out!! As a husband and to-be-father it will be sweet of you to give a massage to before bed to your wife, she will definitely appreciate it!! If there is spa around and they have pregnancy special massages then go ahead and book your wife on a pregnancy spa. And girls..don't be shy!! go ahead and ask your Dear Husband to give you a massage if he is too naive to understand your needs. 

4.Photographs: Take lots of photographs of your lady, if she wishes to be photographed! I had very clearly told my DH that I need lots of pictures during pregnancy and soon after delivery. But you know what, I barely have any hospital pictures with my baby :( and even during pregnancy, most of the pictures that I have are selfies :(( I wish my husband had taken more interest in photographing me during pregnancy and especially in the hospital. I was too dead to remind him to take my pictures in hospital. 

5. Flowers: Please be chivalrous and get flowers for your wife when she is pregnant. She needs these pretty things to help her get through this extensive journey of nine months of making a life in her. She deserves the flowers. You don't need any occasion to give her flowers during pregnancy. Every single day is special when she is expecting. I too wished my DH would get me flowers especially during 8th or 9th month when I had terrible mood swings but it didn't happen. You know what, I clearly even told him, coz he is so naive!!! that pls bring flowers in the hospital coz I hate hospitals and have never been admitted before, so flowers might light up my room and make me feel better while I take endless shots of injections. But he forgot to bring flowers even to hospital :D that's MEN!! Dont worry, he is still alive, I didn't kill him for that :D

6. Time for little changes: Yes DH, please be sensitive towards your wife. Stop littering the house, remember your wife is not flexible like before, pls don't allow her to bend to pick your smelly socks. Give her a hand in the kitchen, go do the laundry, take her out for fresh air, help her exercise, don't stay a out too late with your friends (she needs you more), do not smoke or drink in front of her, avoid eating junk food in front of her; this is to curb any temptations that she might get into watching you do these things. Go for walks with your wife, she will love it. I would have loved it, if my DH accompanied me on walks :)

7. Date Nights: Take your wife on Date Nights. This will give her an opportunity to get dressed and put some make up on, which will definitely make her feel good about herself. Shower compliments and see your wife blush. I had heard that pregnancy makes a woman look more pretty, the skin glows and hair becomes lustrous. Well, none of that happened with me. My skin became a tone darker, dry and dull. So was my hair, lifeless. I wouldn't feel good about myself. Going on date nights would have helped me get dolled up and feel cheerful. I don't remember going on any date night with my DH. 

The above gestures are some which I wish my husband did for me but in many other ways he showed me that he cared for me. Pregnancy is a phase that both husband and wife needs to get through together. Try to enjoy this phase with a massive dose of extra love and care but don't forget to have fun.